I cannot begin to tell you how many times I’ve started over—goals, fitness routines, writing projects, smart eating plans, and personal and professional resolutions. I know that after a few failed attempts at the same goal, the goal needs to be revisited. If it’s a worthy goal, a wanted goal, an achievable goal, then it’s met all elements that need to be pursued; but it still needs to be thoughtfully analyzed before real progress (or abandonment) occurs.
Are you personally invested in this goal? When exploring the idea of personal investment in goals, focus on the outcomes to fuel motivation. When results are measurable, like writing a book, it’s a lot easier to be invested in it than when the outcome is less measurable. Finding ways to define and continually visualize what success looks like really does help you be okay with starting over again and again.
Are you fearful your hard work has been in vain? Think of it this way—you are ready to capitalize on all the hard work that has brought you to this point. You’re not starting over but rather you are now conditioned for the journey. Much like training for a marathon, the work you’ve done to date has prepared you for the starting gate.
Are you motivated to work toward it? Give yourself some grace. There will be days when you just can’t commit, or you face a personal set back that takes you off course. Take time to just chill, regroup and accept that you don’t have to commit every single day to working on your goals. A day off, as long as it’s not too many, is a healthy way to go.
Are you ready to prioritize your goal? After examining that it’s a goal you really want, explore why you’re not making it a priority. This may lead you to excuses: “I’m too busy,” “I’m too tired,” “I don’t know where to start.” If you want this goal badly enough, you’ll make it a priority. If you’re still struggling, look at ways to break it down and make it easy and manageable.
Are you harnessing all of your resources? Remember, you’re not in it alone. You have tons of resources for supporting you when it comes to staying on course: Coaching, Accountability, Mentoring; Affinity Groups, etc. What suggestions do you have?